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I was recently listened to an episode from Simon Sinek's 'Optimism' podcast and he said something that really got me reflecting. Paraphrasing, he said, "There is this entire section of the bookstore called 'Self Help' and not a single section called 'Help Others.' We are all so obsessed with trying to find that elusive thing called 'happiness' that we aren't reading books on how we 'can be happy' and impact other people." I thought this was so powerful. A while back, I wrote about why people should stop chasing happiness and instead start seeking fulfillment. Our belief is that the greatest path to fulfillment is serving, helping and impacting others. This is not a destination, it is a journey; it is an infinite game. If you want to create and ultimately leave a legacy, your work is never done.
In Simon Sinek's book, 'The Infinite Game," he discusses that in an infinite game, you can change the rules, help other players and evolve together instead of trying to hold each other down. Simon Sinek explains the five essential practices to adopting an infinite relationship:
These are really good reflection pieces to make the shift from a finite to an infinite mindset. That evolution takes time and takes intentionality. That evolution encourages us to clearly define our values, mission and purpose. When we operate in alignment with our values, mission and purpose, we can start to move towards a 'help others' paradigm and away from a 'help myself' commonality.
"When your life gets to the stage of being mindful and concerned with impacting and blessing lives, then you are pursuing wholeness as an individual."
-Sunday Adelaja, The Mountain of Ignorance
Don't get me wrong, I'm a believer in personal development. I also believe, however, there has to be purpose-driven action; there has to be service to others, or we simply become constipated with information, but lack the application and intention. Society has built this very numbers-driven, results oriented, question/answer approach. We are pushed to focus on the finite instead of the infinite. If we are aligning values, mission and purpose with our activity, our journey and our processes; I believe, we can find much more joy and fulfillment in life.
"In weak cultures, people find safety in the rules. This is why we get bureaucrats. They believe a strict adherence to the rules provides them with job security. And in the process, they do damage to the trust inside and outside the organization. In strong cultures, people find safety in relationships. Strong relationships are the foundation of high-performing teams. And all high-performing teams start with trust."
-Simon Sinek, The Infinite Game
Culture = Values + Behavior
When we focus on relationships, built on trust, integrity and transparency; the shift becomes more clear from 'me' to 'us,' from 'help myself' to 'help others.'
Enjoy the journey,
Brandon & Amanda